Are you currently embracing your femininity… or your masculinity?

Since the dawn of the feminist movement, women have had more rights and opportunities. And women have proven that they can do it all, have it all and compete and succeed in a predominantly masculine world.

However, with more options comes more choices. And with more choices, there are more decisions to be made. The downside of which can lead to overwhelm.

Not to mention that women face inherent conflicts between their feminine needs and the masculine requirements of society and work.

“In cultures that are focused on production, where continual output is emphasized rather than natural cycles, the feminine is devalued. This has caused every one of us to disown aspects of our feminine nature.” ~Tami Lynn Kent

Unfortunately, every time we deny our female body and functions (such as menstruation, pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding, menopause, etc.), we become less connected to our bodies and more disconnected from our femininity.

And don’t forget about shame.

“Female shame— or shame associated with the vagina, womb, or feminine self— limits a woman’s ability to inhabit her feminine nature. To avoid this shame, women naturally separate from their femininity and female body.” ~ Tami Lynn Kent

All of this means that women are embracing more of their masculinity than their femininity.

And while each person contains both masculine and feminine energies, when women are behaving more masculine than feminine, they lose touch with who they are, what they need and what they want.

Certainly, women can do anything, have anything and be anything, but this doesn’t necessarily translate into more self-confidence, happiness or fulfillment.

This is why many women are wanting to embrace their femininity and find more pleasure, joy and contentment around their bodies, lives and sexual relationships.

Here’s how to embrace your femininity:

 

Go with the flow

Instead of trying to fight and deny your cycles, why not go with the flow instead?

Women are meant to follow the natural rhythms of their cycles.

Like the seasons, there is a time to hibernate and go inwards, a time to grow and create, a time to blossom and flourish, and a time to complete and renew.

Cycle syncing is about working with your menstrual cycles instead of against them. When we do the same thing day in and day out, don’t take breaks and don’t get enough rest and downtime, we aren’t respecting our natural body rhythms and are instead sabotaging our bodies, our health and our happiness.

When women deny or ignore their cyclical nature, they are dishonouring their feminine nature.

In a culture that promotes constantly doing and achieving, a woman’s cycles can seem like a nuisance or inconvenience. But our bodies hold wisdom and not listening to them is far from wise.

Suggestion: When exercising, listen to your body and sync your workouts with your cycle. Pushing yourself when you’re body wants to rest is a recipe for accidents and injuries.

READ: The Sexy Woman’s Guide To Exercise

 

Practice the art of receiving

When it comes to the masculine and the feminine, the masculine is the dynamic force and the feminine is the receptive force.

The feminine is meant to receive.

However, it is usually the feminine who gives and does so much for everyone else and never learns to receive from others. Then when it’s time to have sex, the woman is unable to let go and receive pleasure.

To renew your femininity, you need to get better at doing less and asking for what you want… and then being willing to receive it.

Here are a few suggestions on how to practice the art of receiving:

1. Receive praise. When someone gives you a compliment, take it. Don’t make excuses or correct them. Just say, Thank you.
2. Receive help. It’s not weak to accept help from others. Allow them the opportunity to do something for you.
3. Receive touch. Allow yourself to be touched physically by others. Hugs and kisses are always nice.
4. Receive gifts. If someone gives you a gift, say thank you and accept it.
5. Receive love. Open your heart to love. This the most feminine thing a woman can do.

Whether it’s receiving help, hugs, gifts, compliments, or love, accept them often and willingly.

 

Connect with your senses

Women are naturally more sensual than men.

Using your senses of touch, taste, sight, smell and sound will help to ground you into your body. Notice that thinking is not a sense and that too much thinking gets you stuck in your head.

If you want to become more embodied, then you need to get out of constant thinking mode and get into feeling things with your senses. This will connect you to your sensuality.

Here are some suggestions:

• Give your attention to the sensual aspects of even the most simple and mundane activities. Instead of multi-tasking and doing things on auto-pilot.
• Ground yourself. For instance, walking barefoot on the grass or taking a stroll in the woods.
• Gardening. Anything that connects you to Mother Nature is connecting you to your Divine feminine.
• Immersing yourself in water. Water is calming and sensual. For example, swimming in the lake or ocean or going for a float.*

*A float provides you with FULL SENSORY DEPRIVATION and really helps you to become more sensitive to ALL sensory input.

READ: Have You Tried Floating To Find Your Bliss?

 

Follow your intuition

Your intuition is your inner knowing. It’s your internal guide.

Everyone has intuition but for women, it’s their superpower.

Women… when they’re connected to their bodies’ wisdom… are more attuned to their intuition than men, who tend to operate from logic over feelings.

When women listen to their intuition, trust it and follow it, they become even more intuitive.

And leading an intuitive-based life helps you to align with your purpose, step into your fullest potential and create happiness and impact in the world.

Suggestion: Rather than putting so much trust in opinions outside of yourself, trust in yourself and what resonates with you. Only you know what’s best for you.

READ: Do You Let Your Intuition Guide You?

 

Love & accept yourself

When you’re busy emulating the masculine, you’re not inhabiting your feminine.

Using the masculine capabilities of planning, competing and achieving are great for the work environment and for getting shit done, but they don’t lend themselves to relaxation, pleasure and sexual attraction in your relationship.

The masculine is attracted to the feminine and vice versa.

When a woman is operating mostly from her masculine, she diminishes sexual polarity, becomes exhausted and resentful and therefore feels unhappy with her life and relationship.

She feels unfulfilled because she is not being authentic to who she is, what she wants and the best way to go about getting it.

So she must contend with resistance, struggle and trying to fill herself up in other ways.

All because she’s not loving and accepting herself as a woman and giving herself what she wants and needs.

Suggestion: Stop thinking of the feminine as inferior to the masculine and stop trying to please everyone else. The feminine is equal but opposite. And the feminine is needed to balance the masculine and bring harmony. Love yourself and your femininity because both are necessary and important.

READ:  10 Ways To Love And Accept Yourself

READ: 5 Signs That You’re Operating From The Masculine

 

Do daily pleasure rituals

Women need to experience more pleasure in their lives.

Experiencing more pleasure means doing what you want and doing something that gives you pleasure.

Some examples include:

• self-pleasuring or having sex
• self-care (time alone, a massage, reading a book)
• meditation (sitting in silence, being in nature, grounding)
• preparing your meals (giving loving attention to the process of food preparation)
• savouring your meals (eating food with reverence and sacredness)
• going for a walk (joyful movement)
• bedtime rituals (a facial, a bath, meditation, applying natural creams to your skin)
• bath rituals (Epsom salts, essential oils, candles)
• gratitude journaling (writing a list of all the things you are grateful for)

READ: A Few Good Reasons Why Women Should Masturbate 

READ: 6 Clues That You’re Not Getting Enough Pleasure

 

Get out of your head

If you want to become more connected to your femininity, you need to feel more. Not think more.

Listening to your body will tell you when you’re doing too much, when you’re doing something that doesn’t serve you, and when you’re not getting what you want and need.

It does this through sensations in the body, not thoughts in your mind. You may also have persistent thoughts come up, but these can be another way for your body to get your attention.

Suggestion: Time spent alone, or in quiet, is a great practice to become more in tune with your femininity. Your body, your intuition and your emotions are all allies. If you are wasting time on social media when you could be using that time to relax and connect with your body, you’re not taking advantage of them.

READ: 7 Great Ways To Relax Into Your Body

 

Slow down

Everyone’s in a hurry to do more, get more and have more. There’s no time to eat, to sleep, or to have sex… let alone have an orgasm.

God forbid that should take time.

So you rush through everything and enjoy nothing. Especially sex.

Believe it or not, there are more ways to have sex than the masculine approach of goal-based, fast sex that we normally experience.

For women to enjoy sex, they need total body sensuality, slow sex and tantric sex… which are more feminine approaches to lovemaking.

Always doing creates stress. Stress creates tension and numbness in the body. Tension and numbness lead to an inability to relax and feel. And the inability to relax and feel means that you can’t experience pleasure.

Seriously. You are never, I repeat never, going to experience pleasure and sexual satisfaction if you can’t learn to slow down.

High performance is all about being more, doing more and achieving more. But at what cost?

Your health, sensuality, sexuality and relationships.

Those are the costs… because you won’t have time for them if you’re always busy.

Women will often say that they don’t feel sexy or sexual… and I believe them.

They’re in constant fight-or-flight mode that puts them in a state of hyper-vigilance which means they can’t relax and enjoy, even if they wanted to.

Suggestion: Stop. Doing. So. Much. Sounds simple and yet women continue to run around like chickens with their heads cut off. Stop saying yes to every request. Start saying no to things that you don’t want to do. When you have less to do, you’ll have more time to enjoy what you do decide to do. But the bottom line is that you have to slow down.

READ: 7 Reasons Why You Should Slow Down

READ: Why Obsessing Over Performance Is Bad For Your Sex Life

 

Treat sex and your body as sacred

Sex is sacred and so is a woman’s body.

The woman not only creates the environment for sex, but she creates life from sex.

Treat your body as a temple.

“Honor the physical temple that houses you by eating healthfully, exercising, listening to your body’s needs, and treating it with dignity and love.” ~ Wayne Dyer

Here are some suggestions:

• eat living foods that nourish your mind, body and soul
• get plenty of sleep (take naps if you need them)
• be kind to your body (stop criticizing it, over-working it and exercising too much)
• get naked (get comfortable in your own skin)
• have sex (your sexuality and your spirituality are connected)
• adorn your body (wear lingerie, dresses, jewelry, flowers)

READ: Discover The Power Of Lingerie

 

Spend time with other women

Women are meant to support and nurture each other.

In the past, women learned from their mothers, their aunts, their grandmothers, and their sisters.

In those days, children were raised by a village of women who shared the responsibility.

Nowadays women are on their own. Yes, they may have partners, but they are missing the female support and the wisdom of generations that should have been passed down to them.

Spending time with other women is a way of reconnecting with the feminine.

In a female environment, women can feel safe, nurtured and taken care of.

Suggestion: Have your own tribe of women that support you. Have weekly or monthly get-togethers. Study true femininity and womanhood. Share this information with your sisters.

 

The bottom line on embracing your femininity is that…

A woman doesn’t have to do anything to become more feminine.

She only needs to become more of herself.

 

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There’s a reason they say… opposites attract. But very few people understand the critical importance of polarity in a sexual relationship. The concepts of yin and yang, as well as femininity and masculinity, sexual energy and sexual paradoxes are covered in this module.

The Sexual Polarity course is available to purchase separately! Click HERE.